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Gender Identity?

My identity? When people ask me whether I am gay, straight or bisexual, I usually answer "I am Robert". That should be enough for them - and myself. Why the need to come up with countless identities? Looking at so many transgender people I feel so sad for them. Why? Because you can never deal with issues on the inside by mutilating a healthy body on the outside. I love those people and they are on my prayer list - which is why I do not join the politically correct choir these days. Men and women are physically and mentally different in so many aspects that it is simply impossible to "transition" from one to the other. Looking at the outcome sometimes, my heart is heavy with grief for some of them. You do not become a woman by using lots of make-up, dressing in pink clothes, wearing high heels or changing your behavior and gestures. Neither do you become a man by wearing lumberjack shirts, growing a beard and a belly, farting and cursing. All of that looks to me like a comic version of a man or a woman (and I do not want to ridicule somebody by saying that - quite on the contrary!). When someone imitates looks, behavior or gestures, I usually start to frown. Why the need to do that? The only reason that comes to my mind then is you might not be happy with yourself as you are. You might not love yourself. That, however, you can never change by altering the outside or swallowing hormones. For those who do not know me, check my homepage: You can be "different", not follow every cliche and not copy someone and still be happy with the way you are! Don't get me wrong - it took me decades to come to this point. I do not have to change identities or genders because I am good the way I am! I can fully accept and embrace me now and be the one God created me as! I do not have to undergo surgery, change genders, looks, habits, gestures or facial expressions for Him to love me or for loving myself! I just hope and pray others will come to that point too. You are okay the way you are - no need to change anything, especially not your gender. All the love you need has to come from the inside - and from God. And it does.

God Is Love

Some people open the Bible, take a verse and yell, "See! It is written - there! It says so!". Well, yes it does - at least at first glance.

Think about it: Somebody writes down today "It's raining cats and dogs". Two thousand years from now on a person finds this and wonders what must have happened back then. How did the animals get up? Who threw them down? You know what I mean.

Even more so if you take the Bible as God's inspired Word. When the Lord inspired the writers to write all that down, His inspiration came from His mind. If we try to interpret it with our small pea brains, all we get is confusion at best - spiritual abuse and doctrinal terror at worst.

Yes, even today the Holy Spirit leads the Church and its pastors, also in teaching and preaching. Those men, however, are humans as well and as such fallible. To recognize the voice of the Holy Spirit among the many voices out there and then to follow and obey it against the will of the flash is a task for a saint.

What does that mean? Can't we rely on anything but our personal likes and dislikes? Should we dismiss the Holy Scripture and replace it with moral relativism?

By no means. In everything though we need to keep in mind that we see a tiny part of the whole - and even as to that tiny part we don't really know what to do with. God is bigger than all of that. He does not need proof texting of human concepts. God does not just love us, He is love. Not love as humans see it, but love as He sees it. The kind of love that is fully unconditional, sacrifices itself for others and gives itself a 100 %. Where you give yourself totally. This love is what our faith is all about. Everything else is just a means to the goal. Each situation, each person and each life will require different means. The goal, however, stays the same: God is love and He wants us to be part of Him.

Keep the Lord's Commands at all Costs?

I love the Bible and I love God. At the same time I believe that He is so much bigger than we want to see and make Him. The Bible is not a cook book with answers for each single problem you think you have. It is a love letter from God. Yes, it also contains rules - but not because He likes to boss us around, but because He loves us and wants to keep us from being harmed! This very love is the basis for everything. The rules don't stand alone - they are a means for love. Some try to make laws punishable by death out of these rules, hereby forgetting the purpose they have.

"He answered, “Haven’t you read what David did when he and his companions were hungry? He entered the house of God, and he and his companions ate the consecrated bread—which was not lawful for them to do, but only for the priests. Or haven’t you read in the Law that the priests on Sabbath duty in the temple desecrate the Sabbath and yet are innocent? I tell you that something greater than the temple is here. If you had known what these words mean, ‘I desire mercy, not sacrifice,’ you would not have condemned the innocent. For the Son of Man is Lord of the Sabbath.”

Matthew 12:3-8 New International Version

The laws or rules are of no value out of themselves. They receive their value through the purpose they are here for. No, that does not mean we can or should forget about all of God's commands or interpret them according to our personal likes and dislikes. It does mean, however, that we must see them for what they are: a love letter from God.

15. März 2020

"Pro-Gay" Statements? No thanks.

What I think of companies using "gay" models in ads or the "live-and-let-live" attitude in society as to the LGBTQIA+ community? Not much. I have same-sex attractions myself and I am too old, I have seen too much to believe in that. Companies target us because they see us as potential customers and for no other reason at all. As to society in general: I firmly believe that everybody has a perfect right for his or her personal values. Forcing people to say they are "pro-gay" violates their human rights and means nothing to me as it is only a statement that does not come from within. When times are getting rough again, that attitude will change in a second. Remember when people ran to the supermarkets at the beginning of Corona buying everything they could no matter if there was still something left for others? All the political correctness was down the river in the blink of an eye when personal comfort was at stake.

Everyone has the right to publicly say they like or dislike certain behaviors or even people. What I ask of everybody though is respect.

As a Christian I believe that we are not meant to like everyone. That is impossible. Nor does everyone else have to like us. What God wants us to do is to love one another the way Jesus loved us. Big difference.